HOW TO KNOW YOUR BAD BEHAVIOR WILL DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
HOW TO KNOW YOUR BAD BEHAVIOR WILL DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
When we have problems, and everything went wrong in the relationship, we automatically thought about self-care. We start to talk about removing toxic people in our life. We also think about how deserving we are to living happier.
But it's seems blaming people too much. It's not always them. Sometimes it happened because you're the toxic one. It's okay, we learn. So, how to know your bad behavior will destroy your relationship? Below points are included in all types of relationships.
YOU DON'T TAKE CARE OF YOUR APPEARANCE AND HYGIENE.
Why personal hygiene and appearance matter? There are many reasons such as social, health, and psychological reasons. Hygiene is more than just keeping your body clean and fresh. Alongside the health benefits, it has so much to do with your appearance in society as an individual.
How you look says a lot about who you are and how you feel about yourself. Take a look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? If you don't like yourself then how do other people like you?
No matter how smart you are or have the brains of Sheldon Cooper in The Big Bang Theory (Who won Nobel Prize at the end of the TV show). No one wants to hang out with a sticky and sloppy person.
May be people around you don't mean to reject your presence but they don't know how to tell you about your poor hygiene. They just don't want you to feel embarrassed. Embarrassment is a painful thing, so save yourself by tending some hygiene habits. Try your best to maintain personal hygiene and appearance.
It's also good for your mental and psychological. Your mental health affects your mood, self-esteem, motivation, and self-confidence.
YOU ARE FINANCIALLY IRRESPONSIBLE
Let's talked about financial issues. No one likes an irresponsible person, especially in finance. All types of relationship such as friends, family, siblings, and the married couple hate financially irresponsible.
This issue will throw you hard about your honesty. For example, you lie about money. Lying is a form of financial infidelity that can destroy a relationship. If you have lied about sundry things, this behavior can stretch to finance as well.
It can range from small lies like hiding cash to bigger ones like concealing debt, lying about salary, and secret purchases. These issues can blow up into big fights and lead to separation. Resolve the problem now.
YOU LIKE TO CRITICIZE
Don't you know criticism is a toxic habit that can slowly destroy your relationship? That seems a small matter for you. You might think they are immature or childish when they suddenly angry or sad with what you say to them.
Too much criticism in any relationship can be the worst thing. That habit can lead to contempt. Contempt can be sending the message that they are not liked, appreciated, understood, or respected. When it happened, the problem evolves to trust or feelings of emotional safety are missing.
Maybe you don't a criticism by saying it. Maybe you just show the signs of contempt such as raised your lip, eye-rolling, or sarcastic tone of voice. Beware if you have these habits. Contempt is arrogant. You show people only you know the best and your partner worthless.
Stop criticize. Start to create an atmosphere where it is safe to talk and communicate. Listen and not judge, evaluate, or blaming each other.
If you think like there is something wrong with your relationships right now, so maybe you should start to checking yourself and start to change and practice positive attitude and behavior. Do you have any experience in the past about bad behavior ruin your relationship? Please share your stories in the comment section.
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Everything is need two tango. Kalau tak ada kerjasama tu yang jadi lain macam.
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ReplyDeleteHehehe betul sis... emosi dan feeling tak boleh simpan dalam botol.. lama lama akan meletop dan keadaan akan jadi lebih teruk.. susah nak fix.
DeleteItu sebab orang kata bila kita tunjuk satu jari pada kesalahan orang empat jari lagi tunjuk pada kita. Jadi jangan nak kritik je. Cermin diri sendiri juga kan.
ReplyDeleteYe betul sis... Ada masa masalah tu bukan dari orang lain. Dari diri sendiri...
DeleteA good sharing. I selalu dgr kisah relationship x dapat bertahan.. and sebaiknya kita kena muhasabah diri dulu
ReplyDeleteYe betul sis... muhasabah diri dan cuba berubah menjadi yang lebih baik...
Deletegood tips n info.. aggreed, sometime we must start checking ourself
ReplyDeleteYeahh bro... thanks drop by, reading and commenting.
DeleteSapa2 pun ada sikap mcm tu t tidak semua yg akan membuatkan rumah tangga goncang sbb kita kena sabar dlm menghadapi perangai masing3
ReplyDeleteDalam relationship memang akan ada weakness part...benda yang boleh ubah kita ubah...
DeleteBuat masa sekarang ni saya takda lagi masalah2 dlm perhubungan sbb partner pun takda haha. Tapi sebelum2 ni adalah jugak.
ReplyDeleteHahaha... tak apa... tak lama lagi, In Shaa Allah jodoh bro sampai...tepat pada masanya.
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